“The Stand for Self-Love” an excellent TEDx talk by Amy Pence-Brown.
One thing she said which really struck me was “that’s the thing about vulnerability – right when you open up and you start to live with your full hearts… there’s no going back“. I think that is very true – once we find a way to live fully and reach self-actualisation, we don’t want it any other way.
She describes how we are encouraged to doubt and bully ourselves and offers another way with words of encouragement. She asks, “what do you stand for?“, which can be a difficult question to answer. However, you may find that facing the question head-on can lead to rewarding (and maybe surprising) answers from places within yourself that maybe you hadn’t listened to much before.
Do you tell yourself bad things about yourself or knock yourself down? Do you insult yourself? If so – would you talk to your best friend that way? Would you accept it from your best friend?
It’s easy to think, “but everybody does it”. While it may be true that it is a common thing, it does not have to be that way.
Give it a try. Listen to your inner voice, the one that needs encouragement and nourishment. Try to stop insulting yourself for a day, a week, a month.
How do you feel?