“Don’t compare your insides with other people’s outsides”

Image courtesy of Master isolated images at FreeDigitalPhotos.net
Image courtesy of Master isolated images at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

The title quote, “Don’t compare your insides with other people’s outsides”, follows on from my “Comparison is the thief of joy” blog post.

 

Due to social media such as Facebook and Twitter we see more of other people’s lives than perhaps ever before.  However, some research suggests this is bad for us.  This is mostly due to the comparison aspect in the post linked above.

 

People put things on social media that they want other people to see – their “highlight reel” – rather than things they are ashamed of.  It’s easy to create a false persona online, and for others to think they are seeing the whole person.

 

Like seeing a film at the cinema, on a social media profile we don’t see the “blooper reel”.  We see a polished, finished image.  When we look at ourselves we see the little mistakes, parts of ourselves we dislike and wish weren’t there.  It is easy to believe that we are the only ones who are ‘flawed’, and feel quite alone.

 

You might want to look at your own social media profiles from an ‘outsider’ point of view – what would you think of this person?  Does he or she seem to have life “sorted”?  Are you judging yourself a different way to how you view others, and why?  Do you feel that you have to keep up an ‘image’, and where has that message come from?  Is this fair on yourself, or reasonable to you?  Why or why not?