We are all juggling various things. Not throwing various objects around, but keeping up with the many tasks, jobs and obligations we have every day.
At what point does it become too much, and what can you do?
Only you can decide what you can handle, but you can become so bogged down with things that you can’t even think straight. At times like this, you might even end up compromising on the quality of what you are doing rather than the quantity.
This is not necessarily wrong – but if you find things are getting worse, it could be worth re-examining what you are doing any why.
I’ve written before about Saying No, but how do you know at what point to actually do it?
- Are you compromising important aspects of health and self care, such as sleep and food, in order to get tasks done?
- Is your mood dropping because you’re so overstretched? Have you started snapping at loved ones?
- Are you spending what should be down-time worrying about your list of tasks?
- Have you totally given up the things which bring you pleasure and relaxation in favour of a list of jobs?
If you are saying yes to any of these, you might be juggling too much.
So what can you do?
For a start, look at the tasks you have and work out what actually needs doing and what doesn’t. You can mentally group tasks into “necessary”, “not necessary but would be nice to have done” and “unnecessary”. Be ruthless about it! Much as we would all like to have a sparkling kitchen with alphabetised spice racks, sometimes it’s better overall to just settle for a clean space where we can find things reasonably easily!
Are your thoughts getting in the way? Perhaps you believe things will collapse or people will think much less of you unless you Do All The Things. This might not be a conscious belief, so it is worth examining carefully what you fear might happen if you stopped doing certain things.
Next, you could look at your tasks and check what you are really responsible for and what you are not. So often the bulk of work in a household can fall to just one person, something which is being discussed more and more on social media lately. Writing lists of what tasks fall to which person can be eye-opening! Are you doing certain things just because that’s the way it has always been, despite lifestyles and working hours changing? Do you cause yourself enormous disruption and difficulty to avoid someone else having to put up with a little discomfort?
Are you juggling more than you can manage because you find it difficult to ask for help? It can be so hard to ask for help, as we might fear we are letting people down or damaging their view of us. Only you can decide at what point the risks of asking for help are less than the risks of buckling under. It’s also a good idea to be really specific. It is easier for people to respond to a specific request than a general, “help me!”.
Which juggling ball will you put down today?