I’ve written quite a bit about self care and self esteem. Now I want to look at self reflection.
First of all, what is self reflection and why is it a good idea? Self reflection is, in its simplest terms, looking at ourselves and our behaviours closely and with a sense of acceptance. It means looking at who we are and what we have done, warts and all, without shying away from the difficult bits. It’s a serious exercise that helps us learn more about ourselves and how we interact with the world. By having this knowledge and understanding, we can work out whether or not we are doing what is best for ourselves and the people around us. As with any journey, the first step to going anywhere is working out where you are starting from!
Self reflection can help us to learn what our strengths and weaknesses are. We can identify patterns of thought and behaviour which are helping us or hindering us. We can reflect on how other people see us, and work out whether what they see is accurate and how we wish to be seen.
It’s important to retain balance – don’t overlook the things you are unhappy with, but don’t beat yourself up either! We all have good and bad sides, helpful behaviours and harmful behaviours. We all make mistakes, but the biggest mistake would be failing to learn from one.
So how do you self reflect? It’s up to you! Here are some ideas:
- Daily journalling or Morning Pages
- Expressing your feelings creatively – such as painting, drawing, or making music
- Scheduling a set time to ask yourself questions about how you handled the events of your day
- Using worksheets, prompts, or exercises such as this one or these
- Read books, or watch films/TV shows and think about who you identify with (or would like to), and why
It’s up to you! What will you discover?